I have
a blogging friend. Whether she knows it or not I consider her a sweet friend and someone I learn from and cheer for. She shared some of her secrets recently and challenged others to do the same. It has been an interesting thing to think about. I do have things that I would rather not share at times. I often subscribe to the 'fake it 'til you make it' idea and hope that I really will make it. Sometimes it is in the becoming real and allowing our walls down that we are able to really get to know others and let them in to our life. So with that goal of become more real, kind of like the Velveteen rabbit and all its worn out spots, here I go.
I love sweets. Not just enjoy but love them and sometimes it takes a bigger spot in my heart than my family. Today I hid and ate a just caramel milky way. I had the idea to share it with my husband but decided I would enjoy it more. Selfish and silly. Food is very important to me and good food sometimes makes me hoard and binge.
I think adult children are one of the very hardest to parent. For our family, teenagers have not been difficult. There were/are moments that are challenging but I usually felt grounded and had direction. I felt like I knew my job and position and where I fit in. With adult children I feel the need to tip toe around. I'm trying to juggle being a parent, being available, being a cheerleader, not being a judge. I would really like to be a friend but I don't always feel like I have what it takes to 'be in the club'. Don't get me wrong. They are each wonderful, amazing, loving, successful adults who are moving forward with righteous goals and decisions. My son recently got engaged. My daughter asked if I knew Rachel very well. I don't. I feel really good about her. She is a very good person, treats my son well, and I know they will be happy together, but I don't really know her very well. I admitted this and the next words out of my mouth were that I don't really know my sons-in-law very well either. They are also amazing, great men who are taking great care of their family, working hard and leading in righteousness. I would love to develop a closeness with all of my family but I feel like a social retard at times.
I don't use shampoo. I have been using primarily baking soda for 3 years now. I save money. My hair is healthy and clean. I avoid chemicals and I like finding something different that works. There have been a few times that I thought it wasn't working anymore and I would occasionally use a natural shampoo bar but for the most part I have been successful and felt good.
I am a slow reader. I love good books. I value quality reading. I do not get enough time or energy to read all the things I would like to read. I wish I were faster and I wish I could stay awake when I read.
I don't like to swim. I don't want to get wet, look ugly, be cold, and have to get all dressed up again. I prefer getting all the way dressed and ready for the day in the morning and just being done with it.
I don't like A Christmas Story movie. Some consider it a classic but I do not enjoy it. Once was enough for me.
My dog needs better training than I am giving her. I can't wait until she gets past the chewing stage. She is a year old and still gets into stuff she shouldn't or takes off and scares people at the park. Any suggestions would be welcome.
I realize that I am a highly sensitive person. I recently found
this article about habits of highly sensitive people and I have felt those things. I took the test and found I scored rather high. I don't want to use any of this as an excuse but it does help me understand why when I plow forward and meet with an obstacle I get so thrown. I find noises and smells irritating. I hate the idea of failing and let that keep me from trying. I also realize that I feel judged by people. Chances are very good that the reason I feel this way is that I am judging. My desire is to learn to love unconditionally. I want to learn to accept people (including myself) where I am and just love them, enjoy them, serve them, and be grateful for them.
confessions.
Now you know a little more about me. Maybe you would enjoy sharing a few unknown items. Please be gentle with me. I don't know if you feel any closer to knowing me but I feel like I have exposed a bit of me and hope that it will only bring understanding and a closeness as I continue to share my life and thoughts written here in black and white for anyone to read.
I think I'll post a recipe or something more soon just to keep this from being top of the blog.
May you remember that you are of worth simply because you exist. You were created by God to do great things and you are here now. Do not doubt that you have value. Any other interests, talents, abilities are just icing on the cake.
grateful:
606 blogging continues to stretch and challenge me